“Stop immediately running up to the school to deal with (what your child deems) is a difficult teacher,” says, Wes Hall, Parent Empowerment Instructor. “Unless the challenge involves sexual harassment, racial under or overtones, or physical violence perpetrated against your child, stay home!” Hall, went on to say.
Is it possible that we contribute to our children’s inability to keep a job, based on how we handle situations in their early years of development? As an adult, you can probably point to a time you had to deal with a difficult boss or co-worker (for some of you, you won’t have to think, back, too, far lol). What if you quit every time you encountered a superior with a nasty disposition or a boss who simply did not like you and made your life a living hell. Could you call your mom or dad and have them scurry to your job and take your boss to task (take a moment and visualize that happening and enjoy a good laugh).
Take a deep breath, listen to your child as he/she explains the challenge, then say, “Name three positive way we can handle this concern?” Do not rush them, nor give in to their demands that you handle it, mom … or even greater than that possibility – your own urge to march to the school in your pajamas and footies and give the teacher a piece of your mind – based fully on your remembrance of how you were treated when you were in school.
The growth possibility inherent in this procedure is identified and furthered by intentionally developing a problem-solving mindset in your child, pertaining to handling difficult encounters involving authority. By reinforcing this process and participating through instruction and support, you can help build confidence and self-esteem in your child per increasing the possibilities of producing positive outcomes on his/her own. By gaining a deeper understanding and belief that he/she can authentically troubleshoot complex exchanges with authority figures before exercising the need to call for help or resort to exhibiting negative behavior, we provide our children the personal power to dictate outcomes and produce win/win scenarios in their lives.
"We increase the possibilities of our children producing positive outcomes by empowering them with critical information that contributes to their ability to see every situation through multiple lenses. - thus expanding their repertoire of options and providing them more opportunities to succeed," Wes Hall